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LIES WE TELL OURSELVES

Age rating, content warnings & parent guide

Robin Talley

Is LIES WE TELL OURSELVES appropriate for your child? See the reviewed age guidance, content cautions, positive themes, and supporting evidence below.

Explore the age guidance, content cautions, positive qualities, and supporting notes for LIES WE TELL OURSELVES by Robin Talley. This book is recommended for ages 14+; content notes include LGBTQIA characters, Frightening scenes, Strong language; positive qualities include Courage & resilience, Diverse representation.

Ages 14+Source checked

Why this age? The novel’s mature treatment of segregation, racism, homophobia, threats, violence, trauma, and identity is best suited to teens, despite limited sexual content. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ.

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Age guidanceAges 14+
Strongest cautionsLGBTQIA characters 5/5 · Frightening scenes 4/5 · Strong language 4/5
Strongest positivesCourage & resilience 5/5 · Diverse representation 5/5
Recommendation4.8/5

Courage & resilience; strongest caution: lgbtqia characters.

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What parents should know

The novel’s mature treatment of segregation, racism, homophobia, threats, violence, trauma, and identity is best suited to teens, despite limited sexual content. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ. Courage & resilience; strongest caution: lgbtqia characters.

Readiness snapshotAge guidance: 14+Main watch-out: LGBTQIA characters 5/5
Recommendation 4.8/5

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Recommended age14+

Strongest cautions

  • LGBTQIA characters5/5
  • Frightening scenes4/5
  • Strong language4/5

Strongest positives

  • Courage & resilience5/5
  • Diverse representation5/5
  • Positive messages5/5

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What’s in it?

Death of a character1/5
Why this rating?

Themes of historical racial violence and threats of death are present.

Graphic injury1/5
Why this rating?

Occasional descriptions of injuries resulting from racial violence.

Strong language4/5
Why this rating?

Includes frequent use of severe historical racial slurs and aggressive derogatory language.

LGBTQIA characters5/5
Why this rating?

The protagonist's exploration of her sexual identity is a central narrative element.

Religious themes2/5
Why this rating?

Characters reference religious views, particularly in the context of segregationist ideologies.

Romance3/5
Why this rating?

A same-sex romantic relationship develops centrally, including attraction, emotional intimacy, and kissing.

Frightening scenes4/5
Why this rating?

Sustained realistic threats, mob intimidation, harassment, and fear of discovery create intense emotional danger for the teen characters.

Sexual content & nudity2/5
Why this rating?

Contains depictions of teenage attraction and sexual exploration, handled with sensitivity.

Alcohol or drugs1/5
Why this rating?

Minor references to alcohol use in a social or historical context.

Violence3/5
Why this rating?

Includes depiction of racial harassment, bullying, and physical confrontations typical of the desegregation era.

What’s good in it?

Courage & resilience5/5
Why this rating?

Central theme of personal and moral bravery against systemic opposition.

Creativity & curiosity2/5
Why this rating?

Explores complex character dynamics and perspective-taking.

Diverse representation5/5
Why this rating?

Explicitly centers the experience of Black students during desegregation and explores intersectional identities.

Educational value4/5
Why this rating?

The historical-fiction setting offers meaningful insight into U.S. school desegregation, racism, social pressure, and LGBTQ+ experiences.

Kindness & empathy3/5
Why this rating?

Empathy and solidarity develop across racial and social divisions, while cruelty and dehumanization are also depicted strongly.

Positive messages5/5
Why this rating?

Strong themes regarding social justice, individual courage, and questioning inherited prejudices.

Good role models4/5
Why this rating?

Young characters show substantial courage and growth, though they also make fearful or morally complicated choices under pressure.

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  1. What did courage look like in this story? Was being brave always the same as being fearless?
  2. How are identity and relationships presented, and how do they shape the characters’ experiences?
  3. Which choice in LIES WE TELL OURSELVES would you have made differently, and why?
  4. Who changed the most in LIES WE TELL OURSELVES, and what caused that change?
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