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I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU—FOR YOUNG ADULTS

Name: I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU—FOR YOUNG ADULTS
Author: Chasten Buttigieg

Chasten Buttigieg

The educator and advocate describes growing up gay in a small Midwestern town. (Ages 12 and up)

Ages 13+Source checked

Why this age? The memoir addresses anti-LGBTQ+ bullying, religious conflict, discrimination, mental-health struggles, and coming out with emotional honesty. The material is generally appropriate for teens but may merit adult discussion for younger readers. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ.

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At a glance

Recommended age13+

Strongest cautions

LGBTQIA characters5/5
Religious themes3/5
Death of a character2/5

Strongest positives

Courage & resilience5/5
Positive messages5/5
Diverse representation4/5

What’s in it?

Death of a character2/5

Why this rating?

Brief mentions of struggle and suicidal ideation, but no character deaths.

Strong language2/5

Why this rating?

Some instances of mild profanity or offensive terms used in the context of bullying.

LGBTQIA characters5/5

Why this rating?

Central theme of the memoir is the author's identity as a gay man.

Religious themes3/5

Why this rating?

Faith, church experiences, and the tension between religion and LGBTQ+ acceptance are meaningful parts of the author's story.

Romance2/5

Why this rating?

Discusses personal experiences with dating and finding partners.

Frightening scenes2/5

Why this rating?

Some descriptions of emotional fear and isolation.

Sexual content & nudity1/5

Why this rating?

Mild references to adolescent exploration and relationships.

Alcohol or drugs1/5

Why this rating?

Occasional brief mentions of alcohol use in social settings.

Violence1/5

Why this rating?

Mentions bullying and physical altercations during childhood.

What’s good in it?

Courage & resilience5/5

Why this rating?

Central to the memoir is the courage required to be one's authentic self.

Creativity & curiosity2/5

Why this rating?

Encourages personal reflection and artistic expression.

Diverse representation4/5

Why this rating?

Focuses on personal lived experience as a gay individual and intersectional identity.

Educational value3/5

Why this rating?

Provides insight into the LGBTQ+ experience and social dynamics.

Kindness & empathy4/5

Why this rating?

Supportive family members, friends, mentors, and community care are important, with empathy presented as a response to prejudice.

Positive messages5/5

Why this rating?

Strong themes of self-acceptance, resilience, and inclusivity.

Good role models4/5

Why this rating?

The author models honesty, vulnerability, and advocacy.

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What did courage look like in this story? Was being brave always the same as being fearless?
How are identity and relationships presented, and how do they shape the characters’ experiences?
Which choice in I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU—FOR YOUNG ADULTS would you have made differently, and why?
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