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TO ALL THE BOYS I'VE LOVED BEFORE

Jenny Han

A girl faces budding love, a widower father and the trials of getting into and ready for college. (Ages 14 to 18)

Ages 13+Source checked

Why this age? Teen romance includes kissing, relationship drama, jealousy, a sexual rumor, grief over a parent’s death, and emotionally complicated choices, but no explicit sexual content. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ.

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Recommended age13+

Strongest cautions

  • Romance5/5
  • Death of a character2/5
  • Frightening scenes1/5

Strongest positives

  • Diverse representation3/5
  • Good role models3/5
  • Kindness & empathy3/5

What’s in it?

Products & advertising1/5
Why this rating?

The story does not appear to promote brands, products, or purchasing behavior.

Death of a character2/5
Why this rating?

The protagonist's mother died years before the story begins; grief is a background element.

Strong language1/5
Why this rating?

Very mild language, typical of young adult contemporary fiction.

Romance5/5
Why this rating?

Romance drives the story through crushes, love letters, kissing, fake dating, jealousy, and Lara Jean’s developing relationship with Peter.

Frightening scenes1/5
Why this rating?

Not a scary book; the tension is purely emotional/social.

Sexual content & nudity1/5
Why this rating?

The book includes kissing and a rumor that a teen couple had sex, but no explicit sexual activity is indicated.

What’s good in it?

Courage & resilience2/5
Why this rating?

Protagonist shows growth by facing her fears of vulnerability.

Creativity & curiosity2/5
Why this rating?

The love-letter premise, personal writing, and Lara Jean’s imaginative inner life support creativity and self-expression.

Diverse representation3/5
Why this rating?

Features a mixed-race (Korean-American) protagonist and her sisters as central figures.

Educational value1/5
Why this rating?

Explores the experience of multiracial family dynamics and social navigation.

Kindness & empathy3/5
Why this rating?

Family members and friends show care and protection, and forgiveness and reconciliation are important outcomes.

Positive messages3/5
Why this rating?

It emphasizes honesty, communication, family loyalty, accountability, forgiveness, and handling romantic feelings thoughtfully.

Good role models3/5
Why this rating?

Lara Jean is a relatable, growing character who learns from her mistakes.

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  3. Which choice in TO ALL THE BOYS I'VE LOVED BEFORE would you have made differently, and why?
  4. Who changed the most in TO ALL THE BOYS I'VE LOVED BEFORE, and what caused that change?
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