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Totempole

Sanford Friedman; Penguin Books Staff · 1965

Explore the age guidance, content cautions, positive qualities, and supporting notes for Totempole by Sanford Friedman; Penguin Books Staff. This book is recommended for ages 17+; content notes include LGBTQIA characters, Romance, Sexual content & nudity; positive qualities include Courage & resilience, Diverse representation.

Ages 17+Source checked

Why this age? The novel’s central treatment of same-sex desire, identity, relationships, and adult emotional conflict calls for mature readers; sexual material and period social attitudes may require context. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ.

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Recommended age17+

Strongest cautions

  • LGBTQIA characters5/5
  • Romance4/5
  • Sexual content & nudity3/5

Strongest positives

  • Courage & resilience3/5
  • Diverse representation3/5
  • Positive messages3/5

What’s in it?

Death of a character2/5
Why this rating?

War-related death appears to be part of the story’s context, but there is not enough evidence that a major death or detailed grief is central.

Graphic injury1/5
Why this rating?

Minimal focus on visceral injury, mostly reflecting the realities of military service.

Strong language2/5
Why this rating?

Includes period-accurate language and some mature phrasing.

LGBTQIA characters5/5
Why this rating?

The protagonist's gay identity is central to the novel's themes and progression.

Religious themes1/5
Why this rating?

Religious identity or upbringing may appear as part of the protagonist’s background, but religion does not seem to be a major focus.

Romance4/5
Why this rating?

Explores romantic and sexual self-discovery throughout the protagonist's life.

Frightening scenes1/5
Why this rating?

Not intended to be frightening or suspenseful.

Sexual content & nudity3/5
Why this rating?

Contains frank and mature depictions of sexual discovery and identity.

Alcohol or drugs2/5
Why this rating?

Social drinking typical of the era is depicted.

Violence2/5
Why this rating?

The Korean War setting suggests wartime violence, but available information does not indicate graphic detail or that violent action dominates the novel.

What’s good in it?

Courage & resilience3/5
Why this rating?

Requires significant courage for the protagonist to accept his identity in the mid-1960s.

Creativity & curiosity2/5
Why this rating?

A thoughtful, introspective work that encourages critical thought regarding identity.

Diverse representation3/5
Why this rating?

Strong focus on the queer experience during a specific period of US history.

Educational value1/5
Why this rating?

Offers insight into the mid-20th-century gay experience in America.

Kindness & empathy2/5
Why this rating?

Kindness is explored within human relationships and personal growth.

Positive messages3/5
Why this rating?

Focuses on the importance of self-acceptance and honesty.

Good role models2/5
Why this rating?

The protagonist is a flawed, realistic character reflecting internal human struggles.

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  1. What did courage look like in this story? Was being brave always the same as being fearless?
  2. How are identity and relationships presented, and how do they shape the characters’ experiences?
  3. Which choice in Totempole would you have made differently, and why?
  4. Who changed the most in Totempole, and what caused that change?
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