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He's Just Not That Into You

2009

Remember that really cute girl/guy who said they'd call – and didn't? Maybe they lost your number. Maybe they're in the hospital. Maybe they're awed by your looks, brains or success. Or maybe... They're just not that into you.

Ages 14+Source checked

Why this age? Recommended for older teens because of repeated dating and sexual themes, infidelity, adult relationship conflict, mature emotional situations, and likely profanity; younger teens may need context. This is guidance, not a safety guarantee; reading level and family context may differ.

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Recommended age14+

Strongest cautions

  • Romance5/5
  • Sexual content & nudity3/5
  • Alcohol or drugs2/5

Strongest positives

  • Positive messages3/5
  • Courage & resilience2/5
  • Diverse representation2/5

What’s in it?

Products & advertising1/5
Why this rating?

Ordinary adult lifestyle and dating consumption may appear, but the film is not primarily promotional or brand-driven.

Strong language2/5
Why this rating?

Occasional mild to moderate profanity throughout.

Romance5/5
Why this rating?

Romance is the central focus, involving numerous dating dynamics, breakups, and affairs.

Sexual content & nudity3/5
Why this rating?

Adult sexual relationships, sexual references, and infidelity are prominent, though explicit sexual activity is not the main focus.

Alcohol or drugs2/5
Why this rating?

Alcohol consumption is shown in social settings common for adults.

What’s good in it?

Courage & resilience2/5
Why this rating?

Characters show emotional courage when confronting rejection, commitment, and difficult truths, though avoidance is also common.

Creativity & curiosity1/5
Why this rating?

The film may prompt reflection on relationships, but imaginative or inventive problem-solving is not a major feature.

Diverse representation2/5
Why this rating?

Features an ensemble cast with some racial diversity, though the focus is standard rom-com fare.

Educational value1/5
Why this rating?

It offers incidental social insight about communication and dating expectations rather than structured instruction.

Kindness & empathy2/5
Why this rating?

Friendship and emotional support are present, but romantic selfishness, avoidance, and betrayal also drive the plot.

Positive messages3/5
Why this rating?

The story encourages honest communication, recognizing rejection, and taking responsibility in relationships, while depicting painful consequences of dishonesty.

Good role models2/5
Why this rating?

Characters face relatable relationship choices, but several make selfish or dishonest decisions before learning from them.

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  3. Which choice in He's Just Not That Into You would you have made differently, and why?
  4. Who changed the most in He's Just Not That Into You, and what caused that change?
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